We all experience painful emotions at times in our lives. Sometimes they are so intense that we think we will never get over them. Emotions such as worry, anxiety, fear, pain, anger, disappointment, despair, guilt, inadequacy, overload, loneliness.

Emotions that most people try to avoid. But at what cost..

In order not to feel inadequacy, we may never try to achieve something great. Thus we condemn ourselves to never feel the satisfaction, the joy of creation and achievement.

In order not to experience rejection and the pain that may be associated with it, we may not feel the love and affection with the person we would like.

So by avoiding experiencing painful emotions, we avoid experiencing their opposite, wonderful emotions.

If these painful emotions arise, some people tolerate them or, worse, deny that they feel them. Some may even use them to show how bad or difficult they are going through.

However, none of the above behaviors and ways of managing these emotions bring the desired result, which is none other than to feel better or change our emotional state.

The source of our emotions is ourselves. We create emotions within ourselves and what we feel at any given moment of our lives depends on the meaning we give to an experience we are experiencing. And how we reproduce this experience in our mind will determine how we feel.

Each of us has set some rules, some criteria in operation for what we want to happen.

So our emotions are messengers of clear messages.

DISAPPOINTMENT

Disappointment is an emotion that, if we feel it, can lead to sadness and grief.

Anger is an intense emotion that can cause intense behavior and action from us, to restore what we consider important and have in some way been underestimated. We also feel anger when we think that we should have already achieved some things and this has not happened yet.

So when the restoration of what is important to us does not occur or we do not achieve what we would like in the time we have set, then we are led to disappointment.

Disappointment is the emotion that makes our pulse beat faster. It shows us that the way we have been managing situations so far is not working. So what is the real message of disappointment?

The Message of Disappointment

You can do better

than what you are doing now

Managing Disappointment

Become more flexible
Look for new ways to get to the result you want
It is the definition of insanity, to do the same thing and expect different results in my life.
Trying two or three different approaches that didn’t work for me means that the fourth or hundredth one won’t work either.
Remember that Edison found many ways to make a light bulb not light up, until he found the way that does.
Ask for help from an expert
Clearly define your starting point.
The fastest way to get somewhere is to follow the guidance of someone who has been where you want to go before you.
Always remember, even when you have a guide, you have to walk the walk too.
Get excited about what you will discover
You have unlimited possibilities within you and the way to discover them is to try things you have not tried before.
Our abilities develop through experience. And experience is gained through our efforts, both failed and successful.

So disappointment is a great feeling. We would not feel it if we did not believe that we could do something better than what we are already doing.